Don't fight fate

I've been warned not to ask any more hypothetical questions, but just to begin the post....

What if your child has cancer? Terminal. dying.

a. make a design baby with the same genes as a perfect match, inject growth hormones so that her organs can "catch up" to be donated over to the elder dying child
b. do nothing (always my fave option in decision analysis haha)

the pain of the truth and anger. fighting fate. helplessness. letting go.
it's an understatement that Cameron Diaz delivered it all in My Sister's Keeper :)

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i wouldn't know what i would know. i really don't know. it's definitely difficult to accept. i wouldn't say i can understand how the mother felt... but it must hv been really tough to be dealt such a card.

there's nobody to fault in the show at all. everybody just felt what they truly felt. which makes it very complex (tho not complicated). selfish and unselfish decisions.

kate wants to die. the scrapbook page of "i'm sorry i let them hurt u", etched.

anna wants to grant kate's wish, risked the misunderstanding of her parents. what seemed like a real selfish decision turned out to be the least selfish.

the mum wants to fight on to give kate the kidney she needs to stay alive. i rem the scene where the mum and her sister are searching through piles of files to look for precedence to fight the lawsuit. the mum says if she's not this crazy bitch she is now to fight for kate, she wouldn't be her. she just has to do it. a parallel to sisterhood when her sister says that whatever she does, she's in it with her, smth to that extent.

i'm still trying to make sense of the whole thing. by far, i only know that ppl are really complex beings with multiple factors and uncertainty. in all this, there only remains the conscience that is consistent.

hence, my only conclusion is to live in accordance to my conscience. if it pricks me, it's wrong. if i don't want to do smth, but it tells me to, then i just have to do it.

yet there's a catch. cos sometimes we like to play our own conscience. we tell ourselves what to do. how this happens (psychologically or supernaturally) i do not know. it's like there are 2 or even more of each of us.

the caution is to find a quiet corner to be at peace with myself all over again. when i'm there, i know. there's no fighting fate.



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another qn for which i hv no answer for:
say, you're pregnant, and you itchy hand/mind go and check if the kid has down's syndrome. bingo. the kid has down's. then what? abort? keep and cry? keep and let the kid still shine?

tough.
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quirky, cute comments from mel after the movie:
(paraphrased)
did u see how the teeth of kate (the kid with cancer) changed? in the beginning her teeth was sooooooo nice... and it became uglier (?) as the movie progresses.

i say it's an occupational hazard. hahah.

mel also wondered how they shot the scenes of cameron diaz. she had long hair, shaved her long hair, and short hair at the end. though mel doesn't agree, i think the short hair is her long hair folded in. very not sure...

mel and wan discussed how some parts of the movie were not from the book. like the sex scene for kate and taylor. hoho. i didn't read the book also know hollywood just hv to put that in *yawns*
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don't fault me for using the word 'fate'. i'm not a language person to the details. fate, destiny, god's will, nature's law (of life and death) to me are interchangable. same same.